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Book Review: Taming Your Gremlin
- July 3, 2020
- Posted by: Dr. Cindy Banyai
- Category: Thoughts
Taming Your Gremlin by Richard Carson discusses how a person goes about observing their emotions. Everyone has a gremlin inside them that finds fault, excuses and creates negativity at times. A gremlin is one’s own personal saboteur. Every person’s gremlin is different. Carson emphasizes that one is the observer of their own thoughts and ultimately can tame the gremlins. Taming Your Gremlin is also an interactive workbook with a number of exercises and self-reflections.
Some Common Gremlins
There are many different gremlins that can exist within one’s mind. This book points out a few in particular. ‘The general’ is the gremlin that keeps their host in check and ultimately speaks on what one should or should not do. ‘The artist’ is a free will type gremlin. “The hulk’ is a gremlin that exerts great pressure and heavy stress. ‘The Grim Reaper’ is a gremlin always looking toward and seeing the negative side of things and situations. Other gremlins include: ‘The Big Shot,’ ‘Reverend Al Drydup’ and ‘Little Miss What the Hell.’ Rick Carson states, “I free myself by not trying to be free, but by simply noticing in the very moment I am imprisoning me.”
Simply noticing – Heightened Awareness of your Habits
Rick Carson explains how to tame personal gremlins in three steps. The first step is to notice and try to be more aware of personal gremlins. Questions to ask oneself include, “What are some of the myths of your gremlins” and “What are some of the constant messages you are getting?” Examples of these messages include thoughts of being unlovable or unacceptable. It is critical to notice these gremlins, but also not resist them once they are found. Rick Carson uses the quote, “Whatever resists, persists.”
Choosing and Playing with Options
The second step to taming one’s gremlin is to choose different ways to beat it. One option is to breathe and fully experience every emotion. Shying away from negative feelings is worse off in the long run. Another option is to change for a change. This means altering behavior and responses in certain situations and looking for a different result. Creative visualization balanced with constructive thought, hard work and good choice to imagine a desired result can also be used. Another option is to accent the obvious – meaning experimentation with a mental image of oneself acting out specific feelings. Lastly, one can choose to revisit and re-decide. While re-visiting, one must look at their own self-limiting habits, beliefs, reflect on their origins and notice where the gremlins came from. It is important to look at where personal beliefs are coming from and if they serve positively. The gremlin works off habits and one must go back to your center. This could include yoga or breathing exercises.
Being in Process
The last step Rick Carson discusses is being in process. Carson informs, “Being in process is an attitude – an appreciation of the simple truth and the reality that your life will be forever unfolding, and your future is always unknown.” One must remember that they are not their gremlin, but an observer of their gremlin. There is no finish line or an end to having gremlins and that must be recognized to be successful. Taming gremlins is a growth process. If a gremlin is not faced, it will maintain its grip and control, making it difficult to make necessary changes, thereby limiting potential to attain or achieve desired outcomes.
Awareness and presence of gremlins is critical. Becoming a more effective observer in one’s thoughts, emotions, beliefs and patterns is a crucial action. One should respond to emotions, not just their own but others’ as well. Reality should be interpreted for what it is then changed for the better. One must allow and accept instead of resisting and struggling. Simply notice, choose and play with options, and be in process. There is no finish line. Gremlin taming is a lifelong process.
Watch our Book Club on Taming Your Gremlin here.